I had a wonderful Valentine’s Day weekend with my loving husband who kept me all smiles with his goofy jokes and cheesy cliches that we both know I secretly love.

Though it’s definitely fun to have a day set aside for spoiling the one you love, choosing your spouse can’t just be a once a year kind of thing. It’s an every month, every day, every hour, every minute kind of thing – it’s about choosing to be selfless and deciding to see and care for your spouse’s needs instead of focusing on your needs. It’s not something that comes naturally to humans – as a matter of fact, it’s something that can seem impossible at times.

But when living in light of God’s grace, and truly seeing what His Son did for me in spite of what I really deserve, it makes you think twice about how you see and treat others and the split second judgment calls you make. Not one of us is free of sin and not one of us is deserving of the grace God gives.

In the same way, we need to cast off the idea that people in our lives do or don’t deserve love from us for whatever reason we come up with. Loving someone and choosing to love someone in spite of what may or may not be deserved – that’s what loving someone really is. I’m still learning in many ways what this looks like, but I’m thankful Zach is patient with me as I learn – and we both learn and grow together.